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      How Much of a People Pleaser Are You?

      How Much of a People Pleaser Are You?
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      Lifestyle · Personal Discovery · Who Am I?

      By BrainFall Staff - Updated: April 30, 2024

      We all know someone who is always so eager to make people happy. They can’t help it. It’s how they were raised. They will put their own needs on the back burner in order to help someone else out. This will often take a toll on them after a while.

      People pleasers are the kind of people who struggle at maintaining healthy relationships because they are always trying to do what’s best for their significant other. Finding a balance can be difficult, but it’s ultimately vital to move forward.

      A people pleaser is someone who will avoid conflict at all costs and hinder their own desires. They always think of other people’s feelings and often feel guilty if they put their needs first. People-pleasing behaviors are easy to spot. So do you think you’re a people pleaser? Are you surrounded by people pleasers? Take this quiz to find out.

      A people-pleaser is someone who doesn't think about their own needs and focuses on others. People pleasers are the type of people who avoid conflict at all costs. They tend to defer to someone else's opinion rather than offer up a contradictory one. They aren't focused on their own emotions and they care more about other people's emotions. They are frequently trying to live up to other people's expectations rather than setting goals for themselves.

      People pleasers often are eager and willing to go out of their way to help others. That can be taken advantage of, which can be disheartening to the people pleaser. Once they come to that realization, building up trust again can be difficult. People pleasers may not share their true feelings in the fear that they might hurt someone else. They frequently have low self-esteem as they focus all of their free time and energy on caring about what others think of them.

      While a people pleaser is often a kind person, many people pleasers don't show real self-confidence. They can be bullied and used. Being a people pleaser can be a positive trait as long as the person is taking time to understand their own needs.

      How Much of a People Pleaser Are You?

      Oh, the joy of saying "yes" – it's like your mouth is on autopilot, right? We've all been there, eager to please and quick to accommodate. But are we always in tune with our inner yes-man (or woman)? Life's a party, and we're often one RSVP away from realizing that sometimes, we might just be a tad too eager to please. So, let's have a little fun sifting through the glitter and confetti to find out: How much of a people pleaser are you, really?

      A crowded room with people smiling and nodding, eagerly seeking approval from others. Tables filled with food and drinks, with everyone focused on making others happy

      We've all got a little inner cheerleader rooting for team happiness, brandishing pom-poms made of good vibes and broad smiles. But when the pep rallies of our daily lives turn into marathons to make everyone else happy, it might be time to take a breather and assess our own feelings. Is your well-being sitting on the sidelines while you do the wave for everyone else's needs?

      Strap on your seatbelts because, at BrainFall, we're about to take you on a whimsical quest inside the magic mirror of self-reflection (it's more fun than it sounds, promise!). Prep your clicking finger, because by the end of our quirky quiz, you'll know exactly where you stand on the people-pleasing spectrum – from "I live to serve" to "Sorry, not sorry!" Ready to chuckle your way through some truth bombs about your people-pleasing tendencies? Let's go!

      The People-Pleasing Predicament

      How Much of a People Pleaser Are You?

      We've all been there, balancing on the tightrope between "Sure, I'd love to!" and "I really should say no this time." Let's unpack the suitcase of our people-pleasing ways and see just how much of our own luggage is filled with the heavy sweaters of saying yes when we're itching to throw on the flip-flops of no.

      The Science of Yes: Understanding People Pleasers

      Ever wondered why we find ourselves nodding along to things we'd rather run from? It's a peculiar cocktail of empathy, anxiety, and a sprinkling of low self-esteem. We crave that sweet approval as much as the next sugar fix. But at what cost? This habit of squeezing ourselves into the can of giving until we pop open with resentment isn't just about being nice—it's a complex pattern wrapped in the cozy blanket of kindness. Yes, the science of yes is real, and it goes deep, folks.

      • Approval: That dopamine hit when someone beams at us because we made their day (again).
      • Fear of Rejection: The alarm bell that convinces us it's better to be haunted by the ghost of people-pleasing than to face the monster of rejection.
      • Anxiety: The non-stop party in our heads that says, "What if they don't like us if we say no?"

      The Art of No: Setting Boundaries and Speaking Up

      Now, grab your easels because it's time to paint a new picture—one where setting personal boundaries is the main event. Let's brush up on the fine art of brushing off the excess and focus on self-care. Saying no might taste like unsweetened chocolate at first, but oh, the freedom it brings is sweeter than grandma's apple pie! Here's a snapshot of what being a boundary boss looks like:

      • Assertiveness: Wear it like your favorite superhero cape because it's time to save our own day for a change.
      • Decisions: Tossing the soggy chips of indecision and choosing the crisp ones that make us smile.
      • Authenticity: It’s like being the main character in our own life instead of the supporting act in someone else's.

      Learning to glide through conflict without the usual turbulence and understanding that saying no easier becomes an act of rebellion against our former yes-addicted selves. So, let's thank The Book of No for being the mentor we didn’t know we needed. It's time to embrace our inner power and make speaking up for our needs and desires the plot twist in our personal best-seller.

      Beyond Pleasing: The Pursuit of Genuine Connection

      Before we dive into the quirky intricacies of our need to be liked, let’s acknowledge that there’s more to human interaction than just racking up approval points. We’re on a wild scavenger hunt for authentic bonds and sincere heart-to-hearts.

      Why We Crave Approval and Fear Rejection

      Let’s be real: we’re all a bit addicted to that sweet, sweet validation. Like a cat to catnip, we flock to those thumbs ups, heart reacts, and especially the coveted "You’re so great!" declarations. Studies have shown that approval from others can light up our brains like a Christmas tree. It's part of our human nature to seek harmony and avoid the frustration of being given the cold shoulder. But here's the kicker: this incessant craving can sometimes lead us to engage in behaviors that are more about others than about our own true selves. It’s like when college students might go against their better judgment – say, participating in vandalism – just to be part of the cool crowd. We get it, nobody wants to dine alone in the cafeteria of life.

      Transforming Neediness Into Genuine Self-Expression

      So, how do we flip the script from being a constant "yes" machine to finding our own voice? First off, slipping into people-pleasing mode isn't doing us any favors. In fact, it can toss us into a sea of stress faster than a cat on a Roomba. Apologizing for everything, including when someone else bumps into us? Classic people pleaser move.

      Instead, we should take out our metaphorical paintbrushes and start crafting our personalities on our own terms. It's time to lean into therapy, carve out free time that's just for us, and quit seeking approval like it’s the last slice of pizza at a party. Self-expression is about understanding ourselves and being honest about it – whether we're jamming to tunes that nobody else likes or declaring our love for pineapple on pizza.

      So let's agree to swap the unhealthy chase for likes with the wholesome pursuit of being true to ourselves. Even if it means being the odd one out who skipped the latest trend. After all, embracing our quirks is the recipe for real connections!

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      Question 1/10

      Someone asks you to let them borrow your car for a doctor's appointment. What do you say?

      • "Call an Uber"
      • "I wish I could help, but I need my car"
      • "You can borrow it, but I'll need a favor in return"
      • "Absolutely, I'll drive you there myself!"
      Question 2/10

      What's an adjective people use to describe you?

      • Eager
      • Egotistical
      • Even-keeled
      • Anxious
      Question 3/10

      A friend asks for help painting their house one Saturday. What do you say?

      • "Hire a painter"
      • "I'll bring my overalls"
      • "I should be able to help for a few hours"
      • "Can we try another day? I'm busy that day"
      Question 4/10

      Are you good at establishing boundaries?

      • Yes, I don't let anybody too close
      • Sometimes, but I've been known to blur the lines too often
      • Sometimes, but I've been known to stay too closed off
      • People can establish boundaries?
      Question 5/10

      You hear someone say that the food you made didn't taste good. What do you do?

      • Figure out what they don't like about it without asking them, and then make it for them again the way that they like it
      • Ask them what they think you should do differently so you remember for next time
      • Tell them they can eat somewhere else then
      • Make sure I don't make that the next time they come over
      Question 6/10

      How self-confident would you say you are?

      • I'm kind of confident about some parts of my life, but unsure about others
      • Very confident, I know my strengths and how to use them
      • I'm not the most confident, but I'm trying to work on that
      • I'll be honest, my confidence levels could be higher
      Question 7/10

      What's your role in your friend group?

      • I'm the funny one who's always trying to make my friends laugh
      • I'm the one who brings snacks
      • I'm the one who makes all the plans and makes sure everyone is having a good time
      • I'm the chill one who always goes along with the plan
      Question 8/10

      Somebody wants to ask your friend out on a date. What do you do?

      • Call and make a reservation for them at a restaurant I know my friend loves
      • Tell them some of my friend's favorite things
      • Tell them to ask my friend out themselves
      • Talk with them about the best places to take my friend on dates
      Question 9/10

      Somebody yells at you at work. What do you do after?

      • Cry in the bathroom
      • Hold in my emotions and figure out how to make them like me again
      • Yell right back at them
      • Talk to my boss about it and see what we can do to fix the situation
      Question 10/10

      Do you have a lot of close friends?

      • Some, but I also like my alone time
      • I do, and I'm always surrounding myself with them as I don't like being alone
      • Yes, and we have great relationships
      • I have some, but I know way more about them than they do about me
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