Should I Break Up with My Boyfriend?
How do you spend a typical Friday night?
- Usually, I hang out with my boyfriend, but lately, he hasn't been trying to make plans as much.
- With my partner, of course! I also spend every Saturday night with him, and every Sunday night, and Monday night, and Tuesday night...
- Sometimes I'm with my man, but I spend a lot of time on my own because he keeps canceling our plans.
- Either with my partner, hanging out with my friends, or a group of us all go out together! We give each other the freedom to hang out with other people.
How do your friends feel about your relationship?
- They're always telling me how cute we are!
- I haven't seen my friends in weeks. I'm just too excited about my relationship, and my boyfriend meets all of my needs anyway!
- My friends all have different opinions. Some are supportive, a few keep going back and forth with their opinions, and some even think it's time to break up.
- They hate him. They really want us to break up for some reason!
You're super busy studying or at work. What does your boyfriend do?
- He texts me constantly and distracts me from my tasks. I had to make a separate email address so my work and school messages won't get lost in all the emails he sends me.
- He says I may as well give up, I won't achieve anything anyway. I'm starting to agree--maybe he's right.
- He gives me my space but tells me to call him if I need anything. He's usually working on something he cares about as well, so it works out.
- He says he's busy as well, if he even says anything. I could go a day without hearing from him, and I often do.
How do you see the relationship going if you stay together?
- It makes me nervous to think about. I just don't know what else I would do without him.
- I don't know if I'll be happy in the long term. I want to stay together, but I have no idea what's going on with him lately.
- We will keep working toward establishing a healthy relationship and supporting each other. I could see us being stable in the long-term.
- Amazing! I really like him, and I know he feels the same way. We will always be together.
What do you love the most about your partner?
- He's funny and sweet! We just get along so well.
- He does everything I want! We never fight and he makes me feel complete. He's my person.
- He's really awesome to be around, sometimes. Especially when we started dating, he was so kind and fun.
- He has a lot of cool friends and makes a lot of money. Plus, relationships are important to the people around me, so I feel like I should be in one, too.
What would you change about your partner?
- Sometimes, he's a little mean. He always says he's just joking, but I think he may be serious.
- He doesn't communicate or initiate plans enough. Lately, it's felt like I'm not in a relationship, because he's spending all his time with other people.
- I love everything about my man! But now that I think about it, he can be a little clingy and even needy sometimes.
- There are a few small things about him that bother me, but I know I annoy him too, so I wouldn't change a thing.
In your opinion, what makes a good relationship?
- Hard work, constant communication, doing fun and crazy things so that it always feels new, prioritizing their needs above my own.
- Some reassurance might be nice, or just a sign that he still wants to be with me.
- Respect, communication, and independence make for a happy, healthy relationship.
- I don't have people in my life who can serve as a good example for relationships. My boyfriend just wants me to do everything he says, but I'm not sure if that's ideal.
Which classic TV couple reminds you of your relationship?
- Jan and Michael from The Office. They have moments of passion and fill some kind of void for each other, but they argue a lot, too.
- Moira and Johnny from Schitt's Creek. They're different in a lot of ways, but they get each other and support each other through some very tough times.
- Carrie and Big from Sex and the City. Carrie does everything she can to make the relationship work, and while Big says all the right things, he can never quite commit.
- Khal Drogo and Daenerys Targaryen from Game of Thrones. They seem like the perfect couple! He fights for her and even has all these beautiful names for her.
How do you and your boyfriend spend your time together?
- In the beginning, we went on a lot of amazing romantic dates, but lately, we haven't been doing much of anything.
- We pretty much just do whatever he says. I can't think of anything better to do, anyway.
- We spend all of our time together, so we do everything!
- We like to mix it up! Sometimes we'll hang out at home, sometimes we'll go see a movie, or we might go out to a nice dinner.
How do you feel when you're with him?
- It's a rush! I feel like he's the one, and I can't imagine my life without my man.
- I always feel on edge, like I need to be careful. I'm afraid if I make a mistake, that will anger him.
- I feel a healthy range of emotions. Most of the time, I feel happy and secure when we're together, though.
- There are two extremes: Sometimes it's a rush, and sometimes I feel like he's not giving me any attention.
Do you two have similar goals for your life?
- We haven't talked about our goals. But I think it's a good sign that we're so focused on the present, because we don't think the relationship will end. Ever.
- We definitely want to keep the relationship going if we can, we generally want similar things, and want to keep getting to know each other really well.
- He says he knows what he wants, but I have a feeling it may be changing. We probably want different things, but we haven't had a serious discussion in a while.
- We have different goals, but I don't like to talk about that. I'd probably just go along with whatever he wanted because I'm afraid of being alone.
Have you two told each other you love each other?
- Not yet, but I might be ready to say it. I'm a little afraid of taking that leap. What if he says he doesn't feel the same?
- I've said it to him, but he hasn't said it back yet.
- No. I'm not sure if we'll ever get there.
- We say it all the time! He's the one for me, and I make sure he knows it and says it back.
Your text conversations go something like...
- I usually initiate, and he responds with one-word answers like "good," or "OK," if we even talk at all.
- We send each other memes and make plans, but never have serious conversations over text.
- Lots of emojis (especially the heart-eyes and kissy-face), saying "I love you," and constant talking.
- We argue a lot over text, and actually have most of our important conversations that way, too.
How do you know when you've met "the one"?
- When you feel good when you're around them and really feel like they make your life better.
- When you find someone who's right for you, you should want to spend all your time with them. The whole relationship should feel like a movie.
- When you can't see yourself dating someone else (because no one else will date you) or, if they provide the security you were lacking, you may as well stay with them.
- When your partner makes you feel better in the relationship than out of the relationship.
How would you feel if you two broke up?
- I actually wouldn't be surprised, since I could find tons of reasons for the relationship to end. I'd be sad about it though; I do have feelings for him!
- I probably wouldn't believe my boyfriend if he tried to break up with me, and I'd find a way to change it.
- It would feel a bit like my life was ending. I would probably find a way to move past it with time, although it might be hard.
- I would feel afraid of being alone, but deep down, I'd maybe be relieved.
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Should I Break Up with My Boyfriend?
This question can come up in any relationship. You may begin to wonder whether or not your partner is right for you, or if you've found "the one." Many factors could be playing a role in your relationship compatibility, and there are many reasons someone may still have doubts about their relationship--new or old. "Should I break up with my boyfriend?" is a completely normal question to ask, although there are many situations in relationships that are not normal. You never want to stay in relationships that are not meeting your needs, aren't a good fit, are codependent, or are actively making their lives worse. On the other hand, there are many independent people who are seeking someone perfect, even though they are in a healthy and stable partnership.