10 Questions That Will Determine Your Relationship Success

By BrainFall Staff - Published: March 19, 2025

What makes some relationships thrive while others struggle? Researchers have spent decades studying this question, and their findings might surprise you. The predictors of relationship success aren’t about having zero disagreements or matching on every preference – they’re about how couples communicate, resolve conflicts, support each other, and align on fundamental values. Drawing from established research in relationship psychology, this quiz examines the patterns that matter most for long-term satisfaction and stability. By answering honestly about your relationship approaches and tendencies, you’ll gain valuable insight into your relationship strengths and potential growth areas. Whether you’re currently in a relationship, reflecting on past patterns, or preparing for future connections, understanding these science-backed indicators can help you build more fulfilling relationships. Ready to see what relationship science says about your prospects for lasting love?

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Question 1/10

When you and your partner disagree about something important, what typically happens?

We discuss our different perspectives respectfully, trying to understand each other even when it's difficult
We sometimes get defensive or talk over each other, but eventually find our way to a resolution
We tend to have the same arguments repeatedly without resolution, or one person usually gives in to keep the peace
Disagreements often escalate into criticism, contempt, or shutting down

Question 2/10

When your partner shares something that's bothering them (not about you), how do you typically respond?

I listen attentively, validate their feelings, and ask how I can support them
I listen and offer advice or solutions to help fix the problem
I listen briefly but often find myself distracted or changing the subject
I tend to minimize their concerns or explain why they shouldn't feel that way

Question 3/10

How do you handle it when your partner disappoints or upsets you?

I bring it up directly but gently, focusing on my feelings rather than blaming
I sometimes let small things go, but address bigger issues when I've calmed down
I tend to hint at what's bothering me rather than addressing it directly
I either explode in the moment or shut down and withdraw

Question 4/10

Think about your day-to-day interactions. How often do you and your partner engage in positive moments of connection (affection, appreciation, humor, support)?

Multiple times daily - our relationship has many more positive than negative interactions
Daily - we generally maintain positive connection despite busy lives
Occasionally - we're often too busy or distracted for regular positive exchanges
Rarely - our interactions are more commonly neutral or negative

Question 5/10

How aligned are you and your partner on core values and life priorities?

Strongly aligned on what matters most, with mutual respect for our differences
Aligned on major values with some differences we're working through
Misaligned on several important values that create ongoing tension
Fundamentally at odds on what we believe is important in life

Question 6/10

When one of you is going through a difficult time (work stress, health issue, family problem), what happens?

We turn toward each other - the relationship becomes a source of support and comfort
We generally support each other, though sometimes stress affects how we connect
We tend to handle difficulties individually rather than leaning on each other
Difficult times drive us apart or create conflict between us

Question 7/10

After a significant disagreement or hurt feelings, what usually happens?

We find our way back to connection through sincere apologies and repair attempts
We eventually reconnect, though sometimes it takes a while to feel completely resolved
We move on without really addressing what happened
Hurts accumulate over time with limited repair or resolution

Question 8/10

How do you balance togetherness and individuality in your relationship?

We have a healthy blend of shared activities and individual interests that we each support
We're working on finding the right balance between time together and personal space
One of us wants more independence while the other desires more togetherness
We're either too enmeshed (overly dependent) or too disconnected (living parallel lives)

Question 9/10

When making important decisions that affect you both, what's your typical process?

We discuss options thoroughly, considering both perspectives before deciding together
We consult each other, though sometimes one person has more influence depending on the decision
One person usually makes the decisions, with varying degrees of input from the other
We often reach an impasse or make decisions independently that should be made together

Question 10/10

How would you characterize your sense of trust and safety in the relationship?

I feel secure, trusted, and can be my authentic self without fear of judgment
I generally feel safe, though there are some areas where trust or openness is still developing
I'm cautious about being fully authentic or trusting completely
I often feel emotionally unsafe, judged, or unable to trust

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